#7 Show Them Their Mistake

That project which consumed a lot of my time, made me refuse other opportunities, made me stay up late and spent money for meetings and printing proposal, yes that project is canceled.
Sad? Yes of course, I gave a lot of effort here, I did all I can.
So, any regret? No.

Yes it is canceled, all the time I spent just turn to nothing. Well is it really nothing?

Well there is something. There is always something you can learn. I have never lead a project before, so I had that experience now. And unfortunately it wasn't successful.

To be honest, I am not the kind of person who can easily express my feeling, because sometimes I can be so emotional that I am afraid that it will turn up with tears. So I often hide it with smile or act like nothing happened. Well not only that, you can say that I'm a really considerate and tolerant person, who thinks a lot about the other's feeling while they don't even bother to do the same.

So there is a question then, "Am I not a good leader? Did I lead them wrong?"

My friend keep saying : You are being too nice, and nice isn't enough, sometimes there are people who needs to be yelled or punished to finish their work.

I: Yes I see your point, but I'm like this because as a member before, I really can't disappoint my leader, when they are a good person. I doubt to keep up the good work if they're the bossy type and order around.

I also told my president about this, all my effort et cetera, and I can summary that this is what he said:

P: First of all I would like to thank you, for staying, and all your efforts. I really want to apologize for all the hard times you went through, how all your supports gone. Well you know, I agree that you are being too nice. Nice isn't enough, I get that you're like this because of what you experienced, but not everyone see things like how you see things. Some people make a use of kindness.

I got this response not only from him, but also my friends. But still, I already explained about my sentimental and sensitive side at the beginning, right? I still curious of how can people show their feelings and let their anger out. So I ask him:

I: How can you get mad at people?
P: Do I look like a person who always mad or yell at people?
I: No, I didn't mean that, but as the preaident of this organization I know that you always handle with things, and ofcourse also people that do wrongs or you will get mad at
P: Yes, but I am not mad or yell, what I'm doing is that to make them know that they are wrong, I need to show them their mistakes. If not, they will never understand. I think this is one of Indonesian people weakness, saying that things are okay, while it's not.

I am so glad to hear it. I know that my project is canceled, my team was disaster, but I do learn things, well for example is that. The thing is if something is not okay, show it, If not, nothing's going to change, and if they don't know their mistakes, who knows what will happen next? They might do the same mistake all over again. And like me, If he didn't tell me that, I will never know.